Looks like i need your help again

[Musekaze]

I'm not emo, or depressed, or suicidal, or anything, more or less worried.

A good friend of mine got in fight with her mom and made a sudden decision to move to Colorado with her father, either after this school year, or in a month. I'm just concerned that it's going to ruin her entire life abandoning all of the friends she has here, just to get away from her mom, besides running away from your problems never solves anything.

The other reason i'm concerned is she may still be trying to hide feelings for me (which isn't unreasonable, she is a teenage girl after all), which isn't good either, and may be affecting her decision. There was some previous tension between us, and i worked out my end, but not entirely sure if shes fixed up hers yet, even though she claims to done so long before i had. Running away from me won't help either, she needs to admit it. She asked me "Why are we even friends?" which could mean one of two things: She's actually telling me she wants to be more or she just wants to get away from me. It could be both.

Anyways, what i'm asking is should i just let her ruin her life by doing this, knowing i won't be able to sway her in any way, or should i just leave her alone and let her suffer. I care too much about her as a friend to let her do anything like this, and a lot of other people do too. If she knew what was right she fix up her maternal issues and stay here in Upstate New York.

With greatest concerns,
~~WDK

[Protoss119]

[Terpeh]

I'm not emo,

Emos exist beyond the Mediterranean?

Hm...Controlling someones life is kinda impossible, but you can advice to her.
You cant say, "Dont go! Bla bla bla!" First of all you'll get bitch slapped, second she'll think that you are using her.

Cant she just say sorry to her mum?

[T3hRedMage]

I'm not emo, or depressed, or suicidal, or anything, more or less worried.

A good friend of mine got in fight with her mom and made a sudden decision to move to Colorado with her father, either after this school year, or in a month. I'm just concerned that it's going to ruin her entire life abandoning all of the friends she has here, just to get away from her mom, besides running away from your problems never solves anything.

Friends come and go. She'll get over it and (you) soon or eventually. All you can do in her decision is support her there and here. If you show her that you value her friendship, then she'll in return, value your opinion and genuineness

The other reason i'm concerned is she may still be trying to hide feelings for me (which isn't unreasonable, she is a teenage girl after all),

So are you! ;D You might be suprised.

which isn't good either, and may be affecting her decision. There was some previous tension between us, and i worked out my end, but not entirely sure if shes fixed up hers yet, even though she claims to done so long before i had. Running away from me won't help either, she needs to admit it. She asked me "Why are we even friends?" which could mean one of two things: She's actually telling me she wants to be more or she just wants to get away from me. It could be both.

You're probably thinking too hard about this. It's a common thing to do when ' YOU ' care about someone. Give her space, but at the same time show her that you'll care about her whether or not what she decides.

Anyways, what i'm asking is should i just let her ruin her life by doing this, knowing i won't be able to sway her in any way, or should i just leave her alone and let her suffer. I care too much about her as a friend to let her do anything like this, and a lot of other people do too. If she knew what was right she fix up her maternal issues and stay here in Upstate New York.

With greatest concerns,
~~WDK

Let her do anything like this? What is that suppose to mean? It's almost insulting to see how you think she's so ignorant to not know what she wants to do. If she regrets her decision with her family matters, I'm sure that planes/trains/cars go in two directions.

[Musekaze]

Wow Red you actually made me laugh. For some reason i'm surprised, even though a lot of stuff you say is funny. Not that this is a funny situation, and not that i'm not thankful for your help.

I don't even know why i ask you guys to point the obvious to me. Just support her and do what i think is right.

was that obvious enough for me? apparently not.

[LittleLostThief]

The truth is the only reason you don't want to see her move to Colorado is for your own selfish reasons. If you really like this girl, don't you think the right thing to do would be not to put yourself first in this situation? This isn't about you anymore. It's about that girl doing what she feels to need to do to be happy. I suggest you find a new girl immediately. That one is beyond your grasp unless you can move to Colorado, and if you do move to Colorado that makes you kind of creepy and definitely not romantic.

Whether you like it or not -- you will find a new girl. How long do you think that is going to be exactly? A few months? Probably not even that long. You've probably got another in the wings even as we speak. Maybe she's not as uber hot... but she'll do. She's got all the right parts.

[T3hRedMage]

Gross.

[Musekaze]

Widg didn't i JUST say in my last post i was gonna support her?

And a quick thought: not everything with a vagina is someone you want to talk to. The school slut for instance. Got two abortions last year.

[LittleLostThief]

I'm glad she was able to be mature enough to make a decision not to keep the baby if she didn't think she could handle it. Those are two less children who would have existed in a horrible world where they were unloved, unwanted, and probably with relatively little hope for a mediocre future. She's a fucking saint to spare two children that torment.

I'd probably talk to the girl with the abortions, and ostracize the hell out of some conservative republic brainwashed christians who mindlessly accept accept the ideology set forth by by some 80 year old evangelist. Then again, I also typically like to think for myself. It bothers me when other people offer to do my thinking for me.

Don't be angry 'cause I hit the nail on the head. I was more referring to your line of "doing what I think is right part" in my previous post, and not the bullshit part about "supporting her". If you want to argue with me further... start it off by telling me that you didn't even think ONCE about how you could move out to Colorado to be with her.

And TRM... I thought you had a girlfriend? DO YOU KNOW THAT SHE HAS FEMALE PARTS? O_O

[T3hRedMage]

I haven't had a ' technical ' girlfriend since eight grade. I have a faghag. That's. . totally different.

I also agree with the abortion thing. I don't see anything wrong with it, but I am 'extremely' tired of seeing teenagers having sex, which consequently lead to abortions.

If she's irresponsible enough to not use protection, then I don't think she'd be a good enough mother. Especially with the mentality, - " Oh, well. . I can just kill it if things go wrong. "

But I am for abortion. It solves a lot of economic problems and there are already enough unwanted chlidren living in the world. Adopt a child.

[Terpeh]

Whats a faghag?
Excuse my foreign lack of western knowledge

I'm against abortion, I mean, its a life, ending it would be murder, genocide, if you don't want to do it don't have sex to start with, tell your boyfriend to please you in different ways >.<
(And don't use your damn finger, its bloody disgusting)

[T3hRedMage]

It's only disgusting if you're not clean. .


It's a life, sure. . but you gotta open your eyes to the world and realize that it isn't as moral and ' kind ' as you would like it to be. I think it's much more curel letting a child grow up with parents that didn't want them, then them putting a bullet in their head when their 15 anyway.

It's a life. . but it has no benefits or penalties for dying, besides the death itself. Call me heartless, but eh. It's for the better in the end.

[Musekaze]

Terpy, think about the unborn in abortions. Now think about the millions of already starving orphans and children around the world. People spend to much time thinking about the murdering the unborn and not enough about the already born that need our help. Adopt an orphan. Like now.

Fag hag= a gay man's best girlfriend.

and for those of you who didn't catch on, yes Red is gay. And he's f***ing awesome.

[LittleLostThief]

And here I thought a fag hag was a straight girl that was into sleeping with "gay" men.

As far as abortions go... I am pro-adoption, but at the same time I don't see a huge problem with things if women want to terminate their pregnancy. It is a life, much like SPERM is a life (but I don't see many guys jumping on the bandwagon of not masturbating), but it also lacks self awareness. It won't be "missing" anything to die at that point, except of having to life a life of being unwanted, unloved, and possibly even abused.

What I think is a real travesty is that we can't do stem cell research right now. So instead of these aborted fetus' having a purpose and saving other lives, we're dumping them in the ocean. We're so fucking smart as a country. This is the kind of thing that really makes me hate conservatives and christians. That and the mindless, senseless hatred and violence that surrounds abortion clinics. Don't they have anything better to do with their time than try to BERATE people for their choices? Christians would rather try to elevate themselves socially by dumping on someone else rather than reading the bible and getting that part where it says not to hold other people to your beliefs, only to show them the benefit of having those ways. I'm not sure a brick in the face ever convinced someone having an abortion to believe in god. Good job there guys.

[T3hRedMage]

Ahem. . what he's trying to say is. .

Buy her lunch before she goes.